Welcome back to Thoughtful Thursdays! Today, we’re diving into a topic that I’m sure many of us can relate to—how men approach women. Now, let me set the scene. You’re going about your day, minding your business, and then, boom—here comes a DM or maybe someone in person, hitting you with the classic line, ‘Let’s chill.’ I don’t know about you, but when I hear that, I’m just like, ‘Chill? Am I something you put in the fridge or what?’ I mean, seriously, where’s the effort, the thought, the creativity?But here’s the thing—this isn’t just about the words being used. It’s about the intention behind those words and the effort, or lack thereof, that’s being shown. If someone approaches you with ‘Let’s chill,’ it says a lot about where their mindset is. In most cases, it’s about convenience for them. It’s an easy, low-effort way of showing interest. And as someone who’s very particular about how I engage with people, even in casual conversations, I think it’s important to look past the surface and see what’s really going on.Now, don’t get me wrong. I understand that sometimes a simple ‘Let’s chill’ could be harmless. But let’s be real—a lot of men are using that line because their goal is singular, and they’re trying to get there as quickly as possible. And that’s where we, as women, need to be aware. Not every approach has the same energy or intention behind it. So, how do we deal with it?The key, in my opinion, is knowing your worth and setting boundaries early on. You have to decide what kind of treatment you’re willing to accept. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you, so don’t settle for anything that doesn’t feel right or aligned with your standards. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to be polite or accommodating, but let’s not forget—you deserve to be approached with thoughtfulness and respect.And I know, when you’re younger—especially in your early 20s—it can be a little harder to navigate. You might not yet have that internal compass to tell you whether a guy’s approach is genuine or not. But trust me, with experience, you start to suss out the difference pretty quickly. You’ll learn to spot the guys who are just throwing out ‘Let’s chill’ because they’re not interested in putting in the effort, versus the ones who genuinely want to get to know you. And honestly, the guys who put in the effort are the ones you should pay attention to.Now, I want to emphasize that none of this is about being judgmental. It’s about setting standards for yourself and making sure you’re not letting anyone come into your life with bare-minimum energy. You are worth more than a ‘Let’s chill’ on a whim. You deserve someone who’s going to be intentional about spending time with you and building a connection. Don’t ever forget that.So, let’s flip the script—what do you think is the best way for men to approach women? Personally, I think it all boils down to being genuine. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, but it should come from a place of sincerity. Whether it’s asking thoughtful questions, making an effort to plan something meaningful, or just showing real interest, those are the kinds of things that stand out. But enough about my thoughts—I want to hear from you all. Drop a comment below and let me know how you feel about the ‘Let’s chill’ approach. Do you think it’s lazy, or are you okay with a more laid-back vibe? And what’s the best or worst way someone has approached you? Let’s get this conversation going, because I know we all have stories to share.
Remember, you set the standard for how people treat you, so don’t settle for less than you deserve. Thanks for reading. I’ll catch you on my next blog post. Until then, stay thoughtful and stay true to yourself!
