Today, I want to dive into a topic that’s been on my mind lately, and I’m sure many of you can relate. It’s about something we all strive for: enjoying the fruits of our labor. You know, those things that make our lives a little easier and more comfortable or just completely fills us with happiness. “Things that money can buy”, and I’m not just talking about the material.
You know, it’s funny how success can sometimes stir up emotions in others that you never really expect. Thinking back, I’ve been hustling since a young age. I remember saving up my pocket money and spending my whole paycheck to buy the latest fashion. And as I grew older, that drive to achieve my dreams only intensified. I never hesitated to invest in my own comfort – whether it was traveling to new places, trying out the latest gadgets, or just surrounding myself with things that brought me joy.
For me, success is indulging in anything that is going to make my life easier and stress free, no matter the cost. You see, as I’ve achieved certain milestones and reached goals I’ve set for myself, I’ve noticed something interesting. My happiness and comfort sometimes made people uncomfortable. And it’s not necessarily because they’re envious or jealous, though that can play a part. It’s often deeper than that.
It’s a strange feeling, right? You’ve worked hard, sacrificed, and made countless efforts to achieve financial stability. You acquire things that make your life easier, and you surround yourself with positivity and opportunity. And yet, when you start to invest in yourself and your comfort, you notice a shift in how some people react. But for some reason, there are those who seem to resent it. Why?
Why is that, you ask? Well, it stems from a variety of reasons. For starters, there’s the classic case of envy. Some folks simply can’t stand the idea of others having nice things, achieving their dreams, or enjoying a life they themselves haven’t pursued. It’s like they’re trapped in a cycle of resentment because they didn’t take the steps necessary to go after what they truly wanted.
Then, there’s the scarcity mindset – a belief that there’s only so much success, wealth, and happiness to go around. If someone else has it, it somehow diminishes their own chances. It’s as if they’re convinced that success is a zero-sum game, and they’d rather see everyone on the same level of struggle instead of rising above. It’s like they can’t comprehend anything past struggle!
But perhaps the most baffling reaction is when people associate success with something negative. It’s like they believe that if you have certain things that make your life easier, you must have done something shady to get there. It’s an unfortunate misconception that can stem from a lack of understanding or a fear of change.
Again when I mention success I don’t just mean money. I am writing about the convenience and comfort money can buy that makes life easier! I’ve had friends and family members make comments like, “Leaving your assistant behind for our event would be a good idea, considering the impression it might create.” And suddenly, the joy of treating myself becomes tainted. Something as simple as hiring an assistant to aid me with both my business and daily affairs is frowned upon by certain individuals. It’s almost like you’re walking a fine line between celebrating your successes and being mindful of how those successes might be perceived by others. And no, I don’t have an assistant. That was just an example.
Now, here’s the interesting part. As I’ve experienced this discomfort firsthand, I’ve come to understand why the rich often surround themselves with other wealthy individuals. It’s not about snobbery or exclusivity – it’s about finding a community that understands your lifestyle, journey, your challenges, and your accomplishments. It’s about being with people who don’t shy away from your success but celebrate it. It’s also about not being judged because you are willing to pay for comfort.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I believe in gratitude and staying grounded. But I’ve learned that it’s okay to be selective about who I spend my time with. I’ve found myself stepping away from individuals who can’t embrace or understand why I spend on my convenience and peace. Sometimes I feel as if some people are constantly trying to bring me down with their negative energy. It’s not about abandoning friends or family, but rather protecting my own growth and well-being. I’ve realized that it’s not selfish to prioritize my own happiness and success – in fact, it’s necessary.
So, if you’re going through a similar experience, remember this: your success is not a threat to anyone else’s potential. It’s a testament to what hard work, determination, and a positive mindset can achieve. Don’t let anyone’s discomfort hold you back.
And to those of you who have felt uneasy about someone else’s success, I encourage you to reflect on why that might be. Are you holding back your own potential? Are you letting envy or scarcity mindset control your actions? It’s never too late to shift your perspective and start embracing the abundance that life has to offer.
Thanks for joining me today as we delved into this thought-provoking topic. If you’ve experienced something similar, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below. Remember, we’re all on this journey together! Until next blog post.
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